The real secret to getting what we want.

February 15, 2018 by Christina Santini in Addictions, Anxiety, Depression, Emotional Management, Faith

Most of us are busy trying not to get rejected. When we don't risk rejection, we blend into the many shades of depressing gray that makes up the sky of hazy february. Greatness is standing out. Greatness is daring rejection. Only what I give to you can I have myself. The spiritual field is opposite that of the material. And this is the key. Instead of wanting, we need to create abundance from a mustard grain of faith. If I want kindness, I need to be it. If I want love, I need to give it.Everything is faith based in the spiritual realm and nothing is ours til we give it freely.

Drowning.

August 17, 2017 by Christina Santini in Addictions, Depression, Eating Disorders, Emotional Management, Faith

It is a funny thing in life. Oftentimes we spend so much time in the mud, that we think we are drowning. When the only thing we need to do is to stand up. The water is rarely more than an inch and yet we lie facedown, drowning in only an inch of water and dirt. It often doesn't require much to change the path we are on, if it leads to nowhere. Yet in our mind we make it out to be quicksand. How do we save each other when we can't even master the simple task of saving ourselves? How do we experience the freedom we so long for, if we constantly choose to remain in the chains that comes with addiction? Why do we make things so complicated, when fact is, we always have the option to just stand up and walk away. Walk away from what doesn't serve us anymore. And yet, how many of us ever look up to see that there is another way than how we have been living our life in denial? Imagine if breaking the chains of addiction was as simple as standing up and walking away. And maybe it is - when we want something bad enough, we will find a way - we will make a way. Faith is the only thing that separates us.

Forgettable.

August 02, 2017 by Christina Santini in Addictions, Transformation Keys, Self-Worth, Faith, Intimacy

"You can't forget anything that hurt so badly...(...) It's not possible to forget anybody you have destroyed." - James Baldwin from Another Country 1962. I was reading this tidbit of a snippet taken out of context just the other day. It struck me how many things we may think are "forgettable" but indeed they leave forever imprints.

Your doubt is the only thing holding you back.

November 02, 2016 by Christina Santini in Addictions, Faith, Transformation Keys

Recovery from any kind of addiction is a long winded road. It is not straight, nor does it even always go in the right direction - there are many u-turns and steps back along the way.

They say that if you are going through hell...

October 12, 2016 by Christina Santini in Addictions, Emotional Management, Faith, Intimacy, Transformation Keys

to just keep walking. Seems pretty solid advice. Yet I wonder how many of us disregard this oh-so-simple advice and instead freeze in the moment, like a deer in headlights. We stay stuck in the pain, we might find ourselves in at times for far too long. So that a moment in pain becomes an eternity. Crippling us.

Balancing the aspects of recovery

April 20, 2016 by Christina Santini in Addictions, Eating Disorders, Faith, Transformation Keys

Recovery involves a personal recognition of the need for change and transformation. Recovery is a process through which we gradually achieve greater balance of mind, body and spirit in relation to other aspects of life, including family, work and community. Each person’s recovery process is unique and impacted by cultural beliefs and traditions. Our cultural experience often shapes the recovery path that is right for us. The take-away here is that no one single thing is enough to focus on, not the abstinence, not the trauma, not the nutrition and not the spiritual aspects of connecting with self, others and God. Recovery is complex and requires us to focus on all aspects simultaneously in order to get all the legs on the stool stable.

Is what you worship ruining your life?

December 09, 2015 by Christina Santini in Addictions, Faith, Transformation Keys

Humans were designed to worship. Designed to worship? Seriously what. Did you inhale too much "California grass", I hear you thinking. Nope. Think about why you want more money, designer shoes etc. Think about why you go to the bar at night. Think about why you watch the game every Sunday. Think about why you watch gossip celeb tv. Think about why you do the things you do. In each one of our lives, is an element of worship. Humans were designed to worship. This is not something that most of us ever think about, yet realize. Most of us do not even realize, that we are worshipping something. So what are you worshipping and how might that be affecting your life?

HOW do you change habits?

January 27, 2015 by Christina Santini in Addictions, Binge Eating, Faith, Self-Worth, Transformation Keys

So there is a lot of advice out there telling you WHY you need to change beliefs, habits and lifestyle to achieve the life you truly desire to live. And that's great and all. Many of us are aware that we need to change. Many of us are painfully aware of the self-destructive things we do, that we wish would just vanish. Every Monday we start a new. Every year we set the same resolutions. And days turn into weeks that turn into months, years. The story of our life. If we think back on all those years - decades even, that we have tried and tried and yet we are exactly where we started; it can seem quite depressing. The question most of us are left stuck with is HOW. As in HOW do I change - I understand I need to, but HOW do I do it? There are 5 qualities that facilitate change. Without them you will stay stuck in Neverland. So what are the 5 qualities that will facilitate the change you want? Let's dive in.

How to make 2015 AWESOME.

December 30, 2014 by Christina Santini in Emotional Management, Faith, Transformation Keys, Self-Worth

Life is not easy, and that's why the most important thing we can do is to begin mastering our thoughts and our perception. This way we become more resilient and can just go with the flow instead of fight, scream and in vain hang on to toxic things, that are not working for us, even if we feel that we NEED that person, that habit, that food, that drug etc. Sometimes we need to let go of things we love too.

You will never go any higher than you THINK.

December 16, 2014 by Christina Santini in Emotional Management, Faith, Transformation Keys, Self-Worth

Most of us tend to have these beliefs that we repeat over and over again - in our own heads and in conversations with others. Repeating like a mantra that we want to come true. Well, it just so happens that whatever we think - whether we can or not - we are right.

You must do the thing you think you cannot do.

December 03, 2014 by Christina Santini in Addictions, Eating Disorders, Depression, Faith, Transformation Keys, Self-Worth

One of the reasons why we don't change, let go of addictions, stop disordered eating behaviors and just being self-destructive, is that we simply don't believe we can. And whatever we believe, we will act upon. Our actions are a reflection of what we think - the things we tell ourselves day in and day out. If we tell ourselves that we can't, we won't even try - and if we try, we will self-sabotage.

How To Have Faith When It Seems Out Of Reach

September 02, 2014 by Christina Santini in Transformation Keys, Faith, Depression

I want to challenge your perspective about what you consider as "bad" in your life right now. Keeping in mind, that our thoughts are what shape our emotions, and our feelings determine which actions we take - why it is so important to take back control of our mind, if we want to change anything in our life. When we categorize something as "bad" we often wish, that we had never encountered that experience. That life could have held a hand over us, and not allowed us to walk around seemingly alone and cold in the frostbitten storms of life.