I want to challenge your perspective about what you consider as "bad" in your life right now.
Keeping in mind, that our thoughts are what shape our emotions, and our feelings determine which actions we take - why it is so important to take back control of our mind, if we want to change anything in our life.
When we categorize something as "bad" we often wish, that we had never encountered that experience. That life could have held a hand over us, and not allowed us to walk around seemingly alone and cold in the frostbitten storms of life.
We often may pray, that God would erase some of those memories, so-called "bad" events from our life.
When we do that, we think we know what is best for us. Fact is, we do not.
We THINK we know exactly what we NEED in life, we THINK we know exactly the things that will make us happy.
Paradoxically then, that the more external success, money and worship people have, the bigger the depression, drug-abuse and eating disorder, behind closed doors.
Open any magazine, and almost every celeb there is dealing with a major self-destructive habit.
I want you to consider for a moment, that you may not understand what you need, but you need to have faith in life.
Without faith, we are nothing.
Without faith we cannot surmount the energy to keep going in times of trouble. Our spine simply collapses from the pressure. Faith does not mean, that we know the outcome. It simply means, that we have faith in the process - the journey, the path. That somehow, somewhere, there is a meaning throughout everything we endure, and the sooner we can let go and lean in to learn whatever it is we need to learn to develop character, the lesson stops repeating itself. The pain evaporates - we develop character that we can use to help others and give back.
The shortest way out, is through.
Life is painful, life is challenging - yet also immensely beautiful and fragile.
Faith is the one trait we need to move forward, when everything seems bleak and we feel like we can not go on.
Faith is knowing that we may not know everything, but we can commit to the process, and that somehow we will get through this too.
Faith is putting one foot in front of the other, even when we know there is a million miles to walk, yet we simply focus on the next step.
No one knows if we will actually have to walk those million steps in the end, or perhaps someone will offer a ride to get there quicker. That is not the point - the point is to show up in life - to be WILLING to start and to be committed, step by step.
There are so many variables in life that we cannot foresee - yet often when we are numbed out in pain, we cannot imagine that the sun will ever shine again.
We don't have to understand it - we just need to decide to have faith.
To do the best we can do, step by step, moment by moment.
I want you to understand that faith is a conscious choice we make.
Faith is something we choose to have, before we see the evidence - before we know the outcome.
If you want something in your life - whether it be peace of mind, start your own business, the sun to shine again, or to break an addiction or eating disorder, at some point you need to make the decision to have faith in that the possibility exists - regardless of that you feel as if, it is out of reach.
It is a decision we choose to make.
And it's a decision most of us choose to spend a lot of time arguing about not to make - because how can we have faith in something we have not seen yet?
While that makes sense - it leaves no room for change, it debilitates us.
Imagine if Thomas Edison had said, "Well, sure I'd love to discover the electric light-bulb, but first I must have proof that this can exist - until then I can't spend time trying to invent this, because I have no faith in what I have not already seen".
Do you get my point?
Yes, faith is difficult - but in the end, it is a matter of choice.
Do you WANT to believe in that there is way out for you too?
Then decide today that you will have faith, regardless of what life throws at you. Life is not supposed to be easy, but it gets a whole lot easier, when we understand, that we build character through trial. And we can use that to move on faster as to not get stuck in misery.
Because no one wants to be stuck in pain. However, in order to move out of the pain zone when all is bleak, we must have faith in the unseen. Faith that there is light outside the tunnel.