When we settle in life it guarantees disconnection from ourself and from others. We won’t feel loved or at peace in life, we will feel trapped.

It will feel like self-erasure.

Our nervous system craves resonance, not just presence. We need spaces, places and/or people in our life, who move at our depth, pace, and emotional voltage.

When we settle - whether that be for a job, a person, or anything really in life, following happens:

We become emotionally hyperindependent
Our intelligence turns inwards (against us, overly self-critical)
Our softness will calcify

…that is, if we let it.

The most difficult thing in life is to remain soft and yet have boundaries. To not mistake kindness for weakness. To observe more than we react. To listen more than we speak. To not always have a next-step, next goal, next, next, next…. on our list. Goals are good, yet we often forget that life is now. The lessons we seek to master occur every day in every small way. Once we master the details, the puzzle (often) solves itself.

We are not victims of our choices, we are the writers of how our story goes.

So ask yourself: is this the story you want to be in?

If not, re-write it.

Life is exactly as easy or as complicated as we make it.

Hardship happens to every human being, some people use it as lessons to get more resilient, sharper, better at boundaries yet also softer and to avoid repeating patterns that do not serve us.

- others lay down, face flat and inhale the toxic fumes til they pass out.

The choice of how we deal with hardship is entirely ours.

Once we learn how to navigate, life does in fact get much easier, not because life is easy, but because WE decided to get stronger, better, smarter.

If we don’t learn from bad experiences, we are literally choosing to be stupid.

Don’t be stupid. Nothing good ever comes from being stupid.