Each one of us has a battle that we fight in this lifetime - and that is why it makes no sense to compare us to each other.
The battles are different, yet our perception is what makes for the pain experience.
And that is what matters: our perception. We all hurt the same and go through the same pain, yet the triggers and the way we deal with it differs greatly.
What may trigger pain in one person, may seem like a piece of cake to another.
And for some, the piece of cake is the trigger. The bottomline here is not the cake, although I do love cake.
The point is that it doesn't matter what the trigger is. The only thing that matters is our filter.
In other words, our resilience and ability to deal with what is our unique weakness. Our willingness to be excruciatingly honest with where we are right now, in order to determine the next step to progress at a soul level. This rather than confirm to external standards and put on a facade, that may appear pretty on the outside, but with no inner transformation whatsoever.
Whether we will come out stronger, wiser on the other side depends on our ability to embrace change, be humble and show compassion.
When we stay stuck in comparison mode, we cannot evolve as beings, simply because we are too busy comparing ourselves to focus our energy on shifting.
I believe that the purpose of life is to develop character.
There is no other logical reason as to why we as spiritual being are here on earth to have a physical experience.
This also easily explains why so many of us feel lost regardless of how much we achieve, how successful we come off, however perfect our lives may seem - or not. We will experience a sense of void at some point in our life, if we wake up from our everyday routine of going through life on autopilot.
This void is why we are seeing an epidemic of addiction issues currently.
And more and more a seeking out ways to feel at ease in this skin we are in. Realizing that money, fame, people, food, drugs, alcohol... nothing can feel the void. That there is another hunger that is not being met in modern society.
Some of us are so disconnected from ourselves and our true needs, that we interpret that hunger as a physical hunger for food. We binge. We just can't stop eating junk food. Some of us are so scared of gaining weight, that we transfer that hunger onto things that will temporarily numb us out aka drugs, alcohol, sex, shopping, rage etc.
Addiction in Hollywood is a reflection of the soul hunger going on world wide.
When we are in recovery, we need to become aware of our core sins in life. Yes, I know this word "sin" is a trigger for a lot of you, but get over yourself, if you can't accept that you are not flawless, and that yes we are in fact pretty messy human beings, our ego is getting in the way of evolving in this skin.
Everyone sins, that just human nature.
God knows I sin in some form everyday, simply because I am not perfect. And that's fine, I am totally OK with not being perfect, nor putting up an illusion that I am.
What I am not perfectly OK with, however, is stagnation.
When I am aware of my human shortcomings, I can consciously focus on being a better person day by day. Progressing. Being intensely aware of where I am currently and thus identifying my next micro step.
I am a big fan of micro steps, because they challenge us without putting us into flight or flight mode.
We are playing just at the edge of our comfort zone.
This enables us to evolve at a pace where we can still breathe, so we don't have to feel like we are drowning alive, which will inevitably put us into survival mode and shut off our ability to integrate profound change. Change can only happen in a place where we feel safe - and loved, whether that be self-love or we are fortunate enough to have other people's love in our life, love is a transformation key.
If I refuse to accept my shortcomings, I will stay stuck in my mediocrity.
I couldn't imagine a more suffocating place to be, just a waste of life really. The only thing that will matter in the end is, when I look back and decide whether I was willing to grow and let go of my ego and attachments in life.
What is your next micro step that you can commit to today to become a better person?
Ask yourself, and then do it.