Yes, it really is that simple.
When we suppress our freedom of being due to external ideals, we sell ourselves short, in addition to sending off a message to others, that love is conditional.
An illusion that somehow love is dependent on our physique, that we as humans need to look a certain way to earn love - to be lovable.
There is nothing less attractive - and unfortunately also difficult to love ironically - than those of us, who try and try and try to fit in to be loved.
The vibration of desperation is something we pick up unconsciously - why we are drawn to some people and repelled by others.
Bikini season is the most obvious season to pick up on how body obsessed we have become.
It is a season that for many feeds into our body image fears of not being "good enough", and we easily become prey to quick-fix-its, long-term metabolic damaging diets, Botox and plastic surgery.
Now, before you write me off with "well, easy for you to say and blablabla", hang on. Yes, it is easy for me to say, but like other women, men and beings, I too am way too conscious of my appearance than I would prefer from time to time. The thing here is, I will not tolerate it to form my life, to limit my ability to play.... to be in this skin.
I have long ago made a conscious decision not to feed that part of me, that whispers "not good enough, not pretty enough, not xyz enough".
Even if it were true, I really can't use it for anything. It only inhibits me from taking action and becoming a better person, so I might as well not focus on it, regardless of it being true or not. I simply do not care. The only thing I care about is progress.
The idea here is to simply choose to let go of anything that doesn't serve you.
This is not deep psych stuff here - you don't have to get to that place of total acceptance to take the next step on your journey of change. Most of us will in fact find, that we seize to move, if we overly obsess about "total acceptance" of self.
Our actions should speak louder than our words of who we are, our character - what we believe matters.
This is why ACTION is essential to transform our body, mind and soul. Action steps gives us the confidence we need to master transformation that is soul deep.
We need to decide that we will not tolerate anything that holds us back anymore. It's a decision that anyone of us can make at any given time, at any point. We just need to make it, instead of passively wait for it.
Decisions do not make themselves. If we do not decide, we will become part of someone else's decision. Rarely a good thing.
Once we start living "as if", then our life little by little starts to change to accommodate that belief system. That's how it works. And yes - once again, it really is that simple. Life is not complex.
Obsessing over flaws and "not good enough" does nothing for us. It just goes against our core values of what we want to be and what we want to transmit onto others.
This means going against our very fears EVERY time they show up - until they vanish with the darkness of the night. Our fears do not vanish unless we walk consciously against them. If we hide from them, they will continue to show up again. They will show up in different forms, shapes, spaces and places, but the essence remains the same.
Accepting ourselves in spite of what we are, during the journey, and before we reap what we have sown to transform... that is where the transformation happens, not after.
The more light we let in - the more free we allow ourselves to be in this skin, the quicker we gain access to that body-mind-soul connection and fill the hunger void.
The more we try to fin into bikini seasons, the more we suppress and reinforce that message of "not good enough".