"If you develop an eating disorder when you are skinny to begin with, you go to the hospital. If you develop an eating disorder when you are not skinny to begin with, you are a success story."
How low have our standards of success gotten? So low that means of self-destruction are celebrated. It is sad that we accept this type of imprisonment, but fact is - we are the only ones who can stop allowing it to happen.
Yes, we allow it to happen, when we give in and act on it.
We allow it to happen when we compare our bodies to others. We allow it to happen when we engage in calorie, diet and does-my-ass-look-fat-in-this type of discussions with our girlfriends. We allow it to happen when we starve ourselves, go on dull and lifeless diets or restrict what we can or cannot wear due to body image issues.
We cannot blame society and wait for it to change.
Blaming others is easy and understandable, but that's not how we grow character. We grow character in life, when we live in alignment with our own values. When we stop molding to fit in or gain likes.
We need to stand up for our own needs, wants and desires to develop self-respect and be happy in the skin we are in.
A lot of our suffering in life stems from us allowing other people projecting their insecurities and lack of values onto us.
This is our problem, not theirs. While no one needs that kind of crap in their life, it is still our problem when we allow that to happen. We are the ones to blame not society etc.
Society and people will always present issues for us - life will never be perfect and human beings are by far the most irrational creature created. Relying on other people to save us from ourselves and the harshness in this world is not gonna happen. We have to save ourselves - also in order to save others. And I doubt we would develop much character in life, if we didn't gain the experience of that yes, we are actually able to save ourselves - we do not need someone else to save us. If we did, we would become utterly dependent on that person and would never be able to trust ourselves. That would not be an ideal place for us to be - it would make us feel needy rather than safe. We don't want to desperately need someone, we want to consciously want someone. This also ensures we never lose our self-respect - neediness makes us lose our values and enables us to more easily overstep our own boundaries and with that, we lose our self-respect.