The absolute worst kind of asshole, is the political correct asshole. I cannot stand this political correct nonsense that is sweeping over us like a summerwind at the moment. There is nothing worse than when we play the passive-aggressive card. It's like we won't even admit we are being assholes and then we blame someone else for our own misfortune. It's complete nuttiness. It stunts our growth because we get stuck in this victimization mindset.
Most of us have had a point in our life - at the bare minimum - when we played the victim, until we realized that the only common denominator in every single one of our interactions and circumstances - well, that was us, ourselves, you, me, myself and I. And if we had just an ounce of common sense - which by the way is not very common - then we decided then and there to stop the whining and rather solve whatever needed to be solved.
I don't believe we all can or should get along with each other.
Yes, wouldn't it be wonderful if we could, but realistically we just cant. And why isn't that just okay? Why do we have to get along with everyone. Forcing it only makes things worse. No it's not natural - animals don't get along with everyone either, but they do actually respect other beings regardless of their position in the food chain.
I do believe we all should respect one another.
Currently we have this irrational idea going on that everyone can get along. When fact is, we can't and we shouldn't have to.
I think it is important that we learn the difference between respecting differences of opinions and thinking that anything else than our own limited view is idiotic. The thing is, we all come from different backgrounds, different color on our skin, different genders, sexual preferences etc. And thus we will have a different view on how things best be solved. But in the end, I think we all want the same thing (more or less). Looking at the current political discussion - well, we are not very good at respecting people we do not agree with. And isn't that sad, because when we can't even agree to disagree, we become small disrespecting tyrants. And this is basically what we are watching. A complete lack of respect for differences yet masking it as tolerance.
Tolerance for what? What are we tolerating? Are we tolerating destruction?
Any type of destruction incl. self-destructive behaviors like addiction, they only get worse if we tolerate it. Destruction is the reaction of a hysteric 5-year old mentality - and 5 year olds only respect boundaries when they are clear.
Which boundaries do we have left in society today?
If a woman walks on the street with bare breasts, she is called a feminist fighting for women's rights to be equal to men. I don't even know where to start with this one.
If a man goes into the women's restroom, he should be allowed because he might be feeling like a female or non-gender that day. I am not going to comment on that either.
If a woman marries herself, she is praised for being independent and not in need of a man. Oh come one. We all need someone, what kinda ridiculous levels has the term "independence" reached.
We need boundaries to navigate within, even though we might like the idea of total freedom.
The notion of total freedom brings with it its own set of chains and limitations - more so than navigating within certain set of boundaries. Growing up and being a functioning adult is signified by being able to set boundaries and not tolerate everything, but respecting differences nonetheless.
Anyone who has struggled with addiction knows the importance of setting clear boundaries in life, and that not everything should be tolerated.
If we try to tolerate everything, we stand for nothing.
Often those of us who pretend to be tolerant of extreme behaviors, are incredibly intolerant of anything that goes the least bit against our own narrow view.
That's actually called fascism - it is quite the opposite of what we might like to pretend to be.
Being tolerant hey, it sounds so nice and political correct. Yet these days, those who claim to be tolerant are the most extremist intolerant, it is pretty ironic.
When we do not choose to set certain boundaries, we lose ourselves and we get sick in the process - whether that is on a worldly or individual level.
Total tolerance is the lowest denominator for us all.
Humans need boundaries to thrive and to experience freedom rather than chaos and spending our entire life blabbering on about that everything is relative and attempting in vain to follow no standards - calling it love.
Love does not tolerate everything.
Actually love is pretty demanding while still being understanding, but it is not accepting everything. Very few of us seem to understand that setting certain standards is loving - setting none is lack of same. We crave standards to evolve and become better beings.
One of my favorite books that help me to change my perspective is Paul Arden's Whatever You Think, Think The Opposite. I think the most important aspect of being human with a brain is our ability to change our mind as new information comes to light - flexibility over rigidity can only exist if we choose to set boundaries though - setting none is rigid.